a journey back to cyberspace

it's been awhile, a long time since i updated my blog.

but tonight, i wonder which nerve went to north and tickle my tofu brain. i "revisit" my blog.

i started using this space since 2007, as the breathing space for my overly bloated mind to release my overzealous ideas & tensions and do a little role-playing as a columnist. thinking that no one would ever read my post so i could write whatever i wish, rant whatever things that pissed my off. but my posts are getting lesser each year from a height of 56 (2008) dropped to 13 (2009), 3 (2010) and zero in 2011... perhaps, i was really happy and stress-free during this 3 years.

as i'm looking back at all the blogs i've written. i realized one thing, i used to be very idealistic and optimistic about life. i've lots of ideas and philosophy of how men and women, human to human should treat each other. in the inner most of my heart i'm still am but i also realized i'm starting to moving to a path of becoming the person that i told everyone not to be.

i believe it's time to relook, reflect and revive, and start living as the person i always want to be...

not being wealthy for sure. just being a better person ;)

the top 10 posts that ignited my 2012 new year resolutions.

kindness, a weakness?
choose to believe or investigate the truth?
you said, i said
i cried...
28 worst traits of an eligible bachelor...
i'm losing interest in women...
respect is the first criteria...
so... this is how it feels...
a pleasant august...surprisingly
apology needs to have substance

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honesty could be the most disastrous decision?

when you've given your 100% trust to a person, open up fully and share your darkest history & secrets...

it's the scariest thing...

you can only pray & hope that this person will never use it against you and attack you when you're at your most vulnerable state...

p/s: and of cause, we always make this most disastrous decision when we're 'high'. :)

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blind

i can't see what's beyond me cos i'm blind
i just can't read beyond my own blinds
today is the day that i try to push the blinds
yet i still can't read what is in my mind

can someone tell me what do i need to bind?
i've tried every thread that i could find
everyday i'm walking on a land mine
yet i've lost everything that was to be mine

why? every time when i thought i have it, i flunk?
i've given everything i could yet i'm just a junk
i try to give a smile but all i get are fangs
yet i'm still trying to fit within the rung

i'm blinded by my own desire & passion
can't you see it? or you refuse to comprehend?
i want to give all, and i've given
yet i should do more so i could win?

i've tried so hard, somehow i'm still a dung
i'm swirling within my glass of wine
cos the more i try, the more you whine
was it you, or me? or we both are just blind

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animals are man's best friends, a tribute to Kaizer

recently my good friend's dog just passed away due to accident. it's very sad indeed. Kaizer was also the father of my girl, Hera and my sister's dog, Butter.

Kaizer was a great dog, huge rottweiler, looked monstrous but gentle at heart. the boy will be greatly missed.

- Kaizer -



- Hera -


- Butter -

a tribute to all the lovely animals in the world:


~ Christian The Lion ~


~ "Hachi: A Dog's Tale" - a must watch movie ~

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apology needs to have substance

we all hear people say sorry everyday as often as we hear them saying "good morning" & "how are you?". the question is how many times do these greeting truly come from the heart? do they really wish you to have a "good" morning? do they really care if you're doing ok? so don't greet people like an auto answering machine. even if you said it's a manner, shouldn't manner come from the heart?

same goes to apology. often people say sorry so easily. well, there are also many people who can never apologize willingly as their tongue is growing inward.

so, we all say sorry when we made a mistake or hurt someone. but an apology doesn't just end there with a five-letter word. a truly apology needs to carry substance. it must come from our heart and most importantly our determination and willingness to make amend without conditions.

i was once told, a true apology comes in 3 parts:

1. i'm sorry.

2. it won't happen again.

3. how can i make it better?

in a large scale, part one is the easiest to accomplish. mostly people are able to get to 2nd part but are they willing to go to 3rd part? i believe not many people could. even if they are willing to go for part 3, they would set conditions: i'm willing to cover this but i won't do this and that and this doesn't apply. it's indeed like you're reading a crazy Sale ad that you must not forget to look out for the terms & conditions listed in the most tiny points at the hidden bottom of an ad.

an apology should come from heart, the bottom of the heart. it must never come with a "but", it should be conducted willingly with full determination. when we apologize to people who we have wronged, we automatically lose the right to bargain and demand. Cos in the first place we're the one that's in the wrong and we're trying to make amends. 

plus, having expectation of after we've done this & that, this person must forgive and accept my apologies or else this person is truly unworthy of my apologies, is also a very misguided thinking. Cos this person is not obligated to accept your methods of apologies that you see deem fit. it's certainly his/her right to evaluate your sincerity. if we're to apologize and make amends, we must remove the pride and prejudice and do everything we could to satisfy or to heal his/her wound. Cos after all, we're the one who's seeking for forgiveness and not them.

there is already a prick in the skin, should we just cut the protruding edge or remove the thorn entirely?

so how do we make things better? there is no absolutely right strategy to mend a broken heart.

a true apology comes from our heart, not our skill of negotiation. 

the only thing we could is continue, constantly trying to do better than the last. seeking forgiveness is never an easy task especially when the trust bond is broken. it needs time to heal, and we can't rush and force the person to accept. find out the source of the problem, remove the thorn out from the flesh totally, completely. we could only be patient and give in full determination & perseverance to gain the forgiveness and earn back the trust we've lost.

unless this person worth nothing to you.

then he/she is just as rubbish as the words above ;)

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arrival of the new era, hera the menace

i've not been blogging (bitching) for awhile now. i've been busy (lazy mostly) with new jobs, new clients. but life have been a bit stale for awhile for me (and my son) for the fact that we're always looking at each other, staring at each other's chinese eyes ;)

-- Husky the Chow with his chinese eyes ;)

till 2 weeks ago, my good old friend gave me a little puppy, a 2.5mths old Rottweiler. i named her, Hera after the olympian goddes... and she does behave like a goddes at times while i'm the servant to the highness, serving food, wiping her mouths (front & back).

-- she's loves taking picture ;)

so our daily routine is no longer a routine one, not anymore, at least for Husky, cos he has a new sister and i have a new daughter ;) so now life is a bit more fulfilling for Husky now... and he is a bit more active now....and me too, cos i've been wiping the pee and picking up the shit left by the new arrival of Hera the menace... imagine i've not been doing this for the last 4yrs since Husky is super well toilet trained....now i'm training myself again, not only the patience bit but the right way of squatting down (to pick the shit....) haha...

-- Husky is happy ;)

but she's cute, super duper "manja" and "teh" and goes everywhere i go. sleeps on my lap when she's tired, sleeps by my leg when i'm working... ;) and yes, teething, makes me crazy...cos she bit my beloved Teva slippers... damn... so now i've a new daily routine, hang my slippers before i go to bed! ;)

-- cool pose ;)

here's the Olympian goddes in the house, Hera. born july 11, 2009 :)

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flash mob at gröna lund, sweden

cool! we all need more of these on the street.

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Scam! Win a Macbook Air in facebook

there is a phishing scam going on in the facebook by one of its advertisers that entice facebook users to guess the friend's birthday and stand to win Macbook Air.



it's absolutely a scam. it not only use the camouflage marketing tactics by hookwinding users in subscribing their services, it's also a phishing scam that steals the users password!



the moment you click on the web banner on the facebook it will lead you to their "contest" website which immediately steals your facebook account's password, either after or before you keying more info in the website.

immediately you're log out of the facebook and you have to re-login. but you cannot login again with your existing password!

because you're require to reset to your NEW password!

i received a warning email from the facebook immediately:

"Hey Edo,

We have detected suspicious activity on your Facebook account and have reset your password as a security precaution. It is possible that malicious software was downloaded to your computer or that your password was stolen by a phishing website designed to look like Facebook. Please carefully follow the steps provided:

1. Run Anti-Virus Software: If your computer has been infected with a virus or with malware, you will need to run anti-virus software to remove these harmful programs and keep your information secure. For Microsoft:

http://www.microsoft.com/protect/viruses/xp/av.mspx
http://www.microsoft.com/protect/computer/viruses/default.mspx

For Apple:

http://support.apple.com/kb/HT1222

2. Reset Password: Be sure that you use a complex string of numbers, letters, and punctuation marks that is at least six characters in length.

To reset your password, follow the link below:

http://login.facebook.com/reset.php?email=xenoed
(If clicking on the link doesn't work, try copying and pasting it into your browser.)

3. Never Click Suspicious Links: It is possible that your friends could unwillingly send spam, viruses, or malware through Facebook if their accounts are infected. Do not click this material and do not run any .exe files on your computer without knowing what they are. Also, be sure to use the most current version of your browser as they contain important security warnings and protection features.

4. Log in at Facebook.com: Make sure that when you access the site, you always log in from a legitimate Facebook page with the facebook.com domain. If something looks or feels suspicious, go directly to www.facebook.com to log in.

5. Report Suspicious Activity: Please visit the following pages for further information about Facebook security and information on reporting material: http://www.facebook.com/help.php?page=420 and http://www.facebook.com/security.

Once you have performed all these steps, your account should once again be secure. Please be sure to visit the Facebook Help Center for further information regarding these security issues and let us know if you need assistance.


Thanks,
Facebook Security Team"

when you're in their page, it requires you to key in your mobile number then in return it will send you a text message require you to confirm your participation.

BUT... it's not a confirmation of participation, in fact it's a subscription. a "continuation subscriptions" to their mobile content service, it will not stop until you text them again to request stop. each text message will cost you MYR4 to reply, and it's not stated in the text message but in the fine print under the website. the t&c states that if you reply means you've agreed to the terms & conditions. it means you by the time you realize, you would have at least paid MYR8 (USD2.36) just to cancel the "subscription"!!

luckily i was smart enough (but not smart enough to let them steal my password), with my marketing & advertising experience i know how mobile marketing works. they make money thru every text message you sent.

i realized it's a scam when they sent me a message requesting me to send back a confirmation. by law (or ethically) it must state that the cost of each SMS but it didn't. and normally, you will need to send a few text messages in order to confirm a deal, e.g.

you: YES (send 12345)
they: pls. provide info such name, ID, etc...
you: richard, 987654 etc (send 12345)
they: pls. answer few questions
you: the answers (send 12345)

imagine, you would have sent at least 3 times to realize it's a scam! that will be MYR12 (USD3.54) with this scam...and could be more!

I just have no respect with dishonest marketing, totally unscrupulous!

the scam is operated by the following companies:

www.wixawin.com & Sybase 365 Asia Sdn Bhd in Malaysia.

if you have info of the company operating in your country please inform too.

i'm sure we can save some people ;)

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